Dating someone with the same last name
When we were filling out the paperwork, she asked us if we were legally married since we had the same last name on the forms.
We told her “No.” She said, “Then why are your last names Xiong?
You never know ir that person could possibly flip your world upside down.
We envision a world where Hmong women and girls are valued and supported to achieve their highest potential in all of their roles.
My mom gave me some herbs to help conceive and one month later, I became pregnant.
When I first found out I was pregnant, I was worried how my baby would turn out.
We eventually moved out of state and started going to church because we didn’t know how to “ua neeb” or call for a “txiv neeb” because we were alone.
When I think about it now, it was pretty ridiculous that we even went through that whole process. " I'd be lying if I said it wasn't rather strange saying my name out loud to reference someone else.
In a way it felt like I was referencing myself in third person. As I have stated before, your name is part of your identity, however, it isn't your whole identity.
Past the awkward stage of introductions, the date went fairly well. Lo and behold, I couldn't answer these questions I was posing. Your identity consists of your personality, cultural background, ethnicity, racial identity, etc.
As the date progressed I began to slowly let go of my preconceived conceptions of dating a person with the same name as myself. With that being said, should we be putting so much stress on our names?
Time and time again, I always came to the conclusion that I wouldn't because it would be too weird and unrealistic.